OTHER FOCUS:
Concentrating on
others needs and problems. Analyzing their motives and behavior.
Asking questions of others. Telling stories about what he/she did.
NEGATIVE RESULTS: Helps us avoid our own issues. Makes us observers, not participants.
Puts a safe (and lonely) distance between ourselves and others.
RULE 1: Keep
your sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings. Please limit
your sharing to 3-5 minutes.
RULE 2: We are
here to support one another. We will not attempt to "fix" one another.
GOALS: Work on
self. Share personal needs, feelings, ideas and problems. Allow time
for all those who need to share.
BREAKING CONFIDENTIALITY:
Telling outsiders
what was said or done in group. Gossip disguised as a prayer request.
NEGATIVE RESULTS: Violates trust and safety. Makes members afraid to share risky
material.
RULE 3: Anonymity and confidentiality are basic requirements. What is shared in
the group stays in the group.
GOALS: Celebrate Recovery is a safe place.
CROSS-TALK
Interrupting
people, asking questions, having a dialogue with one other member of the
group.
NEGATIVE RESULTS: Members fear that they won't be able to finish sharing, that their ideas
are not valued, or that they won't get a chance to speak.
RULE 4: There
will be no cross-talk please. Cross-talk is when two individuals
engage in a dialogue, excluding all others. Each person is free to
express feelings without interruption.
RULE 5: Offensive language has no place in a Christ-centered recovery group.
GOALS: Listen
respectfully to what others choose to share. |
Celebrate Recovery® at CRBC